This is something that has both fascinated me, and irked me for a little while and the funny thing is I am guilty of this too!
It’s got to do with that Facebook LIKE button, that new little thumbs up emoticon and mindful connections.
Its a scientific, social and researched fact that people want to be part of something bigger than themselves. Hence the success of Facebook in the first place!
People want to feel part of something, they want to be heard, visible and seen, and we certainly want to connect with people mindfully. To have those deep connections where we are transparent, honest, and authentically ourselves.
Then its also a scientific fact that true connection, authentic, compassionate and strong connections can be made between people online. Some people have gone so far to say in recent research that people are MORE happy with their relationships online!
So, lets think about the conversations that happen when you are on the plane with the person beside you. Some of the most authentic, honest, compassionate and deep conversations have happened between me and the person that the universe sat beside me. Why is that?
Is it because we are high in the sky, is it because we dont have a choice to chat with them or is it because when you are strapped in a seat 30 thousand feet in the air that we are equal. That we all have the same seat, the same meal choices, the same amount of space and we have to share the same armrest. I really believe its the latter.
You know, there is no ego when you fly, you are both secretly hoping the plane stays in the sky, that you arrive safely and that there isnt too much turbulence. Right?
So, why is it that these conversations are few and far between when you hit land?
Why is it that its considered okay to just click that freaking LIKE button and move on, without comment, without connection and without a further thought? Why is it that even when someone posts something terrible that has happened to them, maybe they are hospitalised, maybe their mother died, their dog died, or maybe they lost their job or partner that people think its okay to LIKE the post. Seriously is there anything to like about that? It’s almost ironic really.
Then we have that silly (stupid if you ask me) little thumbs up emoticon, you can use it in Facebook messenger and you can use it in texts now too!! I think its so silly because it doesn’t really say anything except.. I don’t really care about this, I don’t want to answer this, or ok. There is no depth to this little picture, and no connection. Its the perfect way to tell someone you aren’t present in the conversation, and you aren’t connected.
So why is it that people want to feel connected, but then are using these silly little ways to prevent a mindful connection from happening.
So if mindful connection is what we all want then why don’t we set a challenge to stop using that LIKE button and actually comment, message or GASP call, and remove that little thumbs up from our texts and messengers and connect with someone properly, with authenticity, care and be present for a WHOLE WEEK and see the difference it has made!
Lets report back our findings after this whole week and see what a change this has made to our relationships online, and our happiness. My hypothesis is that this will drastically change our relationships, and create more of a community within your online space.
Hashtag the #mindfulconnectionchallenge and maybe even nominate a few people to join in with you. You can change the world with a single action repeated over and over again!
What do you think?